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Sunday, March 30, 2014

Facebook Status Updates Lent Style- Week Two

Home sweet home… I have missed my husband, my dogs and my bed!

Lynnsay and I returned to Temple on Wednesday.  We had such a great visit with my in-laws, parents, sister and nieces!  But it was nice to be back in my own home!

Asking for prayers for my sweet mother-in-law and our family, and especially for my husband as he works diligently to complete a job so that he can travel to Lubbock to be with her and his family.

My mother-in-law, who has been suffering with liver failure for two years, took a serious turn for the worse and was not expected to live through five days… the family was called in to her bedside. However, no one told her that her time was limited to five days… we took her home on Wednesday, and got her settled in with daily visits from HOSPICE, a hospital bed and side table…and now 16 days later, she actually ate breakfast at the kitchen table with my father-in-law. She said she would go when the good Lord called her name, but not before!  I love that woman so much!!
Five days in west Texas, five days home and five more days in west Texas… my hatred of sandstorms has been re-established…I don’t want to hear anyone in Central Texas complaining about the wind blowing. Ever.

The sand…oh the sand… I told Cody that it has been a long time since there was sand left in the tub after my shower that was not from the beach or gardening. The smell of dirt stuck with us until we got to Gatesville…

Blessed to be able to attend worship at our church this morning… I love my Foundation family!

We came home on Saturday and were able to make it to church on Sunday.  We got to hug the necks of many of the people who have been praying for our family all week.  Such a great blessing to be part of a praying body!

Wine night with the ladies!!! So much fun!

Monday night at the Nolan Creek Winery…it was so relaxing to have “lady talk”!  (And a bonus was the fact that all open bottles were 50% off by the glass!!)
A new favorite quote from Aubrey Blayce, “Do you know what the difference between me and you is? I was born a princess!”  Yes, baby girl, you were.  And don’t ever forget it!

One of my favorite movies of all time is “A Little Princess.”  I love it when the little girl asks the mean old teacher, “Didn’t your daddy tell you that you were a princess? Every little girl is a princess.” (Not a verbatim quote- but you get the meaning) All daddy’s should tell their little girls that they are a princess.  I think it should be a mandate.

Tuesday night and I am working late instead of working out.

I have not gotten to work out all month.  I have been sick, out of town or having to work… I miss my workout days!!
Hump day with Hudson and Aubrey will be spent at the office today!! I love getting to spend time with these two anywhere!

I  usually spend my Wednesdays at home with the kids.  But I have been so far behind at work that this week I went ahead and tried to work with them.  Amazingly, I really did get a lot of stuff done in between looking for Hudson, taking potty breaks, refereeing fights, filling up sippy cups, “opening” bananas and forcing naptime…
Workout cancelled by our trainer…boo! Or is it whoo hoo!! I am conflicted…

Lynnsay and I were changed and ready to go workout when Hannah messaged us and told us that she could not make it.  We thought about working out by ourselves for one hot minute- Instead we picked up Aubrey and went to the grocery store and came back to my house and made spaghetti and played outside with Aubrey and Hudson!
I hate it when I open my grandmother mouth and my mother voice comes out…Sorry I yelled at you Princess… but I just wanted you to get off the porch…I did not have time to show you where the red wasp was in order to convince you that you needed to move off of the porch…

Aubrey is very smart, and unfortunately sometimes that translates to needing to “understand” why you are asking her to do something… which is often followed by a very 3 year detailed explanation of why she should NOT have to do whatever it is you are asking her to do…all of which cause me to resort to just yelling, “BECAUSE I SAID SO- THAT IS WHY!!”  A phrase I hated hearing as a child, and I hated using as a mother- and it is now haunting me as a grandmother…
Aubrey, during a “naptime” came and got me and said, “MarZ, can you just come pray for me?  That’s what my dad does.” Melt.My.Heart.Make.Me.Cry. I will pray for you anytime, anywhere for anything.  I will pray for you without ceasing…


Yes- this conversation took place after my epic grandmother fail while trying to get her off of the porch and away from the red wasp… This granddaughter of mine is almost perfect…Home sweet home… I have missed my husband, my dogs and my bed!

Lynnsay and I returned to Temple on Wednesday.  We had such a great visit with my in-laws, parents, sister and nieces!  But it was nice to be back in my own home!

Asking for prayers for my sweet mother-in-law and our family, and especially for my husband as he works diligently to complete a job so that he can travel to Lubbock to be with her and his family.

My mother-in-law, who has been suffering with liver failure for two years, took a serious turn for the worse and was not expected to live through five days… the family was called in to her bedside. However, no one told her that her time was limited to five days… we took her home on Wednesday, and got her settled in with daily visits from HOSPICE, a hospital bed and side table…and now 16 days later, she actually ate breakfast at the kitchen table with my father-in-law. She said she would go when the good Lord called her name, but not before!  I love that woman so much!!
Five days in west Texas, five days home and five more days in west Texas… my hatred of sandstorms has been re-established…I don’t want to hear anyone in Central Texas complaining about the wind blowing. Ever.

The sand…oh the sand… I told Cody that it has been a long time since there was sand left in the tub after my shower that was not from the beach or gardening. The smell of dirt stuck with us until we got to Gatesville…

Blessed to be able to attend worship at our church this morning… I love my Foundation family!

We came home on Saturday and were able to make it to church on Sunday.  We got to hug the necks of many of the people who have been praying for our family all week.  Such a great blessing to be part of a praying body!

Wine night with the ladies!!! So much fun!

Monday night at the Nolan Creek Winery…it was so relaxing to have “lady talk”!  (And a bonus was the fact that all open bottles were 50% off by the glass!!)
A new favorite quote from Aubrey Blayce, “Do you know what the difference between me and you is? I was born a princess!”  Yes, baby girl, you were.  And don’t ever forget it!

One of my favorite movies of all time is “A Little Princess.”  I love it when the little girl asks the mean old teacher, “Didn’t your daddy tell you that you were a princess? Every little girl is a princess.” (Not a verbatim quote- but you get the meaning) All daddy’s should tell their little girls that they are a princess.  I think it should be a mandate.

Tuesday night and I am working late instead of working out.

I have not gotten to work out all month.  I have been sick, out of town or having to work… I miss my workout days!!
Hump day with Hudson and Aubrey will be spent at the office today!! I love getting to spend time with these two anywhere!

I  usually spend my Wednesdays at home with the kids.  But I have been so far behind at work that this week I went ahead and tried to work with them.  Amazingly, I really did get a lot of stuff done in between looking for Hudson, taking potty breaks, refereeing fights, filling up sippy cups, “opening” bananas and forcing naptime…
Workout cancelled by our trainer…boo! Or is it whoo hoo!! I am conflicted…

Lynnsay and I were changed and ready to go workout when Hannah messaged us and told us that she could not make it.  We thought about working out by ourselves for one hot minute- Instead we picked up Aubrey and went to the grocery store and came back to my house and made spaghetti and played outside with Aubrey and Hudson!
I hate it when I open my grandmother mouth and my mother voice comes out…Sorry I yelled at you Princess… but I just wanted you to get off the porch…I did not have time to show you where the red wasp was in order to convince you that you needed to move off of the porch…

Aubrey is very smart, and unfortunately sometimes that translates to needing to “understand” why you are asking her to do something… which is often followed by a very 3 year detailed explanation of why she should NOT have to do whatever it is you are asking her to do…all of which cause me to resort to just yelling, “BECAUSE I SAID SO- THAT IS WHY!!”  A phrase I hated hearing as a child, and I hated using as a mother- and it is now haunting me as a grandmother…
Aubrey, during a “naptime” came and got me and said, “MarZ, can you just come pray for me?  That’s what my dad does.” Melt.My.Heart.Make.Me.Cry. I will pray for you anytime, anywhere for anything.  I will pray for you without ceasing…

Yes- this conversation took place after my epic grandmother fail while trying to get her off of the porch and away from the red wasp… This granddaughter of mine is almost perfect…Home sweet home… I have missed my husband, my dogs and my bed!

Lynnsay and I returned to Temple on Wednesday.  We had such a great visit with my in-laws, parents, sister and nieces!  But it was nice to be back in my own home!

Asking for prayers for my sweet mother-in-law and our family, and especially for my husband as he works diligently to complete a job so that he can travel to Lubbock to be with her and his family.

My mother-in-law, who has been suffering with liver failure for two years, took a serious turn for the worse and was not expected to live through five days… the family was called in to her bedside. However, no one told her that her time was limited to five days… we took her home on Wednesday, and got her settled in with daily visits from HOSPICE, a hospital bed and side table…and now 16 days later, she actually ate breakfast at the kitchen table with my father-in-law. She said she would go when the good Lord called her name, but not before!  I love that woman so much!!
Five days in west Texas, five days home and five more days in west Texas… my hatred of sandstorms has been re-established…I don’t want to hear anyone in Central Texas complaining about the wind blowing. Ever.

The sand…oh the sand… I told Cody that it has been a long time since there was sand left in the tub after my shower that was not from the beach or gardening. The smell of dirt stuck with us until we got to Gatesville…

Blessed to be able to attend worship at our church this morning… I love my Foundation family!

We came home on Saturday and were able to make it to church on Sunday.  We got to hug the necks of many of the people who have been praying for our family all week.  Such a great blessing to be part of a praying body!

Wine night with the ladies!!! So much fun!

Monday night at the Nolan Creek Winery…it was so relaxing to have “lady talk”!  (And a bonus was the fact that all open bottles were 50% off by the glass!!)
A new favorite quote from Aubrey Blayce, “Do you know what the difference between me and you is? I was born a princess!”  Yes, baby girl, you were.  And don’t ever forget it!

One of my favorite movies of all time is “A Little Princess.”  I love it when the little girl asks the mean old teacher, “Didn’t your daddy tell you that you were a princess? Every little girl is a princess.” (Not a verbatim quote- but you get the meaning) All daddy’s should tell their little girls that they are a princess.  I think it should be a mandate.

Tuesday night and I am working late instead of working out.

I have not gotten to work out all month.  I have been sick, out of town or having to work… I miss my workout days!!
Hump day with Hudson and Aubrey will be spent at the office today!! I love getting to spend time with these two anywhere!

I  usually spend my Wednesdays at home with the kids.  But I have been so far behind at work that this week I went ahead and tried to work with them.  Amazingly, I really did get a lot of stuff done in between looking for Hudson, taking potty breaks, refereeing fights, filling up sippy cups, “opening” bananas and forcing naptime…
Workout cancelled by our trainer…boo! Or is it whoo hoo!! I am conflicted…

Lynnsay and I were changed and ready to go workout when Hannah messaged us and told us that she could not make it.  We thought about working out by ourselves for one hot minute- Instead we picked up Aubrey and went to the grocery store and came back to my house and made spaghetti and played outside with Aubrey and Hudson!
I hate it when I open my grandmother mouth and my mother voice comes out…Sorry I yelled at you Princess… but I just wanted you to get off the porch…I did not have time to show you where the red wasp was in order to convince you that you needed to move off of the porch…

Aubrey is very smart, and unfortunately sometimes that translates to needing to “understand” why you are asking her to do something… which is often followed by a very 3 year detailed explanation of why she should NOT have to do whatever it is you are asking her to do…all of which cause me to resort to just yelling, “BECAUSE I SAID SO- THAT IS WHY!!”  A phrase I hated hearing as a child, and I hated using as a mother- and it is now haunting me as a grandmother…
Aubrey, during a “naptime” came and got me and said, “MarZ, can you just come pray for me?  That’s what my dad does.” Melt.My.Heart.Make.Me.Cry. I will pray for you anytime, anywhere for anything.  I will pray for you without ceasing…

Yes- this conversation took place after my epic grandmother fail while trying to get her off of the porch and away from the red wasp… This granddaughter of mine is almost perfect…Home sweet home… I have missed my husband, my dogs and my bed!

Lynnsay and I returned to Temple on Wednesday.  We had such a great visit with my in-laws, parents, sister and nieces!  But it was nice to be back in my own home!

Asking for prayers for my sweet mother-in-law and our family, and especially for my husband as he works diligently to complete a job so that he can travel to Lubbock to be with her and his family.

My mother-in-law, who has been suffering with liver failure for two years, took a serious turn for the worse and was not expected to live through five days… the family was called in to her bedside. However, no one told her that her time was limited to five days… we took her home on Wednesday, and got her settled in with daily visits from HOSPICE, a hospital bed and side table…and now 16 days later, she actually ate breakfast at the kitchen table with my father-in-law. She said she would go when the good Lord called her name, but not before!  I love that woman so much!!
Five days in west Texas, five days home and five more days in west Texas… my hatred of sandstorms has been re-established…I don’t want to hear anyone in Central Texas complaining about the wind blowing. Ever.

The sand…oh the sand… I told Cody that it has been a long time since there was sand left in the tub after my shower that was not from the beach or gardening. The smell of dirt stuck with us until we got to Gatesville…

Blessed to be able to attend worship at our church this morning… I love my Foundation family!

We came home on Saturday and were able to make it to church on Sunday.  We got to hug the necks of many of the people who have been praying for our family all week.  Such a great blessing to be part of a praying body!

Wine night with the ladies!!! So much fun!

Monday night at the Nolan Creek Winery…it was so relaxing to have “lady talk”!  (And a bonus was the fact that all open bottles were 50% off by the glass!!)
A new favorite quote from Aubrey Blayce, “Do you know what the difference between me and you is? I was born a princess!”  Yes, baby girl, you were.  And don’t ever forget it!

One of my favorite movies of all time is “A Little Princess.”  I love it when the little girl asks the mean old teacher, “Didn’t your daddy tell you that you were a princess? Every little girl is a princess.” (Not a verbatim quote- but you get the meaning) All daddy’s should tell their little girls that they are a princess.  I think it should be a mandate.

Tuesday night and I am working late instead of working out.

I have not gotten to work out all month.  I have been sick, out of town or having to work… I miss my workout days!!
Hump day with Hudson and Aubrey will be spent at the office today!! I love getting to spend time with these two anywhere!

I  usually spend my Wednesdays at home with the kids.  But I have been so far behind at work that this week I went ahead and tried to work with them.  Amazingly, I really did get a lot of stuff done in between looking for Hudson, taking potty breaks, refereeing fights, filling up sippy cups, “opening” bananas and forcing naptime…
Workout cancelled by our trainer…boo! Or is it whoo hoo!! I am conflicted…

Lynnsay and I were changed and ready to go workout when Hannah messaged us and told us that she could not make it.  We thought about working out by ourselves for one hot minute- Instead we picked up Aubrey and went to the grocery store and came back to my house and made spaghetti and played outside with Aubrey and Hudson!
I hate it when I open my grandmother mouth and my mother voice comes out…Sorry I yelled at you Princess… but I just wanted you to get off the porch…I did not have time to show you where the red wasp was in order to convince you that you needed to move off of the porch…

Aubrey is very smart, and unfortunately sometimes that translates to needing to “understand” why you are asking her to do something… which is often followed by a very 3 year detailed explanation of why she should NOT have to do whatever it is you are asking her to do…all of which cause me to resort to just yelling, “BECAUSE I SAID SO- THAT IS WHY!!”  A phrase I hated hearing as a child, and I hated using as a mother- and it is now haunting me as a grandmother…
Aubrey, during a “naptime” came and got me and said, “MarZ, can you just come pray for me?  That’s what my dad does.” Melt.My.Heart.Make.Me.Cry. I will pray for you anytime, anywhere for anything.  I will pray for you without ceasing…

Yes- this conversation took place after my epic grandmother fail while trying to get her off of the porch and away from the red wasp… This granddaughter of mine is almost perfect…Home sweet home… I have missed my husband, my dogs and my bed!

Lynnsay and I returned to Temple on Wednesday.  We had such a great visit with my in-laws, parents, sister and nieces!  But it was nice to be back in my own home!

Asking for prayers for my sweet mother-in-law and our family, and especially for my husband as he works diligently to complete a job so that he can travel to Lubbock to be with her and his family.

My mother-in-law, who has been suffering with liver failure for two years, took a serious turn for the worse and was not expected to live through five days… the family was called in to her bedside. However, no one told her that her time was limited to five days… we took her home on Wednesday, and got her settled in with daily visits from HOSPICE, a hospital bed and side table…and now 16 days later, she actually ate breakfast at the kitchen table with my father-in-law. She said she would go when the good Lord called her name, but not before!  I love that woman so much!!
Five days in west Texas, five days home and five more days in west Texas… my hatred of sandstorms has been re-established…I don’t want to hear anyone in Central Texas complaining about the wind blowing. Ever.

The sand…oh the sand… I told Cody that it has been a long time since there was sand left in the tub after my shower that was not from the beach or gardening. The smell of dirt stuck with us until we got to Gatesville…

Blessed to be able to attend worship at our church this morning… I love my Foundation family!

We came home on Saturday and were able to make it to church on Sunday.  We got to hug the necks of many of the people who have been praying for our family all week.  Such a great blessing to be part of a praying body!

Wine night with the ladies!!! So much fun!

Monday night at the Nolan Creek Winery…it was so relaxing to have “lady talk”!  (And a bonus was the fact that all open bottles were 50% off by the glass!!)
A new favorite quote from Aubrey Blayce, “Do you know what the difference between me and you is? I was born a princess!”  Yes, baby girl, you were.  And don’t ever forget it!

One of my favorite movies of all time is “A Little Princess.”  I love it when the little girl asks the mean old teacher, “Didn’t your daddy tell you that you were a princess? Every little girl is a princess.” (Not a verbatim quote- but you get the meaning) All daddy’s should tell their little girls that they are a princess.  I think it should be a mandate.

Tuesday night and I am working late instead of working out.

I have not gotten to work out all month.  I have been sick, out of town or having to work… I miss my workout days!!
Hump day with Hudson and Aubrey will be spent at the office today!! I love getting to spend time with these two anywhere!

I  usually spend my Wednesdays at home with the kids.  But I have been so far behind at work that this week I went ahead and tried to work with them.  Amazingly, I really did get a lot of stuff done in between looking for Hudson, taking potty breaks, refereeing fights, filling up sippy cups, “opening” bananas and forcing naptime…
Workout cancelled by our trainer…boo! Or is it whoo hoo!! I am conflicted…

Lynnsay and I were changed and ready to go workout when Hannah messaged us and told us that she could not make it.  We thought about working out by ourselves for one hot minute- Instead we picked up Aubrey and went to the grocery store and came back to my house and made spaghetti and played outside with Aubrey and Hudson!
I hate it when I open my grandmother mouth and my mother voice comes out…Sorry I yelled at you Princess… but I just wanted you to get off the porch…I did not have time to show you where the red wasp was in order to convince you that you needed to move off of the porch…

Aubrey is very smart, and unfortunately sometimes that translates to needing to “understand” why you are asking her to do something… which is often followed by a very 3 year detailed explanation of why she should NOT have to do whatever it is you are asking her to do…all of which cause me to resort to just yelling, “BECAUSE I SAID SO- THAT IS WHY!!”  A phrase I hated hearing as a child, and I hated using as a mother- and it is now haunting me as a grandmother…
Aubrey, during a “naptime” came and got me and said, “MarZ, can you just come pray for me?  That’s what my dad does.” Melt.My.Heart.Make.Me.Cry. I will pray for you anytime, anywhere for anything.  I will pray for you without ceasing…

Yes- this conversation took place after my epic grandmother fail while trying to get her off of the porch and away from the red wasp… This granddaughter of mine is almost perfect… 

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Status Updates Lent Style- Week One

Well, I decided to give up Facebook for lent.  I think I am spending far too much time on it, and a break was long overdue.  However, I decided I would just start blogging my status updates… I will share them with you, but I have realized that most of the time, a status update is simply for my own enjoyment.

 “Happy Birthday Elika!! I love you, and I am so thankful that God blessed us with your birth and that He has allowed me to be small part of your precious life!!!”  With Dianne Kiblinger

Sweet little Elika Kiplinger turned 6 on Friday!  We met them for lunch at Chick-fil-A and we got to go to Pet Smart and pick out a new Beta fish for her!  She did a great job picking out a beautiful blue crowntail!  She named him Blueberry.


“Road trip!! Packed up and heading to west Texas!”

Lynnsay, Hudson, Aubrey and I packed up and left for Shallowater late Friday afternoon.  We arrived at my sister’s house about 11 p.m.  Other than having to perform moves of a professional contortionist in order to pick up dropped sippy cups, snack bags or toys…our 6 hour ride from Temple to Shallowater was uneventful and fun.


“Watching some little dribbler games in Shallowater… my nieces are ballers!!”

Saturday morning consisted of a house full of girls, with the addition of one 22 month old boy (who was being manhandled, for the most part, by the girls) and one daddy/uncle, (who was being ignored, for the most part, by the girls) all rushing around to get ready for a 10 a.m. and 11 a.m. little dribblers basketball game.  Oh how I have missed sitting in a gym filled with the sound of screeching tennis shoes, a ball bouncing on the floor and the blowing of the whistle!  As well as the yells of all the onlookers…”Move your feet!”  “Grab the rebound!” “SHOT!” “Get it to the basket!” 


“Well, that was embarrassing…in a freak accident, Aubrey and I ended up in a tumbled heap on the floor of the Shallowater Elementary School gym…with everyone looking on.  Yes, Shallowater, I am a klutz.”

While trying to gather all of our “stuff” together, keep Hudson from jumping off the stage as well as running onto to the court to grab a “bahitball”, consoling Bella (7 year olds don’t take losing seasons without a little bit of tears)and meeting and talking to my sister’s friends, somehow Aubrey took my hand and began walking around me and we got tangled up in a heap and ended up sprawled on the floor.  Everyone in our “group” yelled and started gathering around us… the on lookers just stared at us, with what I felt was veiled judgment, and I just wanted to stand up and get out of there!  I was pretty sure I had damaged Aubrey’s internal organs by landing on her and my family was certain that I had broken something by falling on the floor.


Aubrey, “MarZ, this baby needs to go to the doctor, I think she is sick.” With Jacob Crittenden and Katherine Stewart

Um, yeah… it does look like there is a problem with that particular baby that goes a little further than the fact she is at least 38 years old…


“No one eats chicken and French fries at Leal’s, Aubrey!" Apparently Aubrey will only eat chicken and French fries at Leal’s.

Needs no explanation.

“Preslee: I can’t eat lunch. I feel gross.  I am still in my pajamas.
“Me: I am still in my pajamas too…I feel gross…but I am totally eating lunch!”

Yes- on Sunday, at my mom’s house, I ate lunch in my p.j.’s!

“It is a beautiful day in the neighborhood here in west Texas.”


Sandstorms in west Texas…


Preslee, noticing that I was crying at Reagan’s middle school choir concert, said, “MarZ, are you crying?  You do realize that Reagan is doing basically nothing up there right now except moving her mouth, right?”  Man! That child keeps it real!

Shallowater Middle School  Choir concert…it lasted all of 15 minutes and we were 5 minutes late. But I still found 10 minutes worth of music to bring me to tears…

“I have lived through two haboobs in West Texas.”

This is a photo from the haboob in October of 2011 taken at a Shallowater Mustang Football practice.


Photos of the Haboob coming in on March 11, 2014


For Real… and I don’t care if everyone wants to just call them “Sand Storms”... these were both a little different in the way they hit hard and all at once... And both reminded me that I am happy to live in Temple, Tx, where the wind may blow, but the sand does not.





Thursday, March 6, 2014

New Habit Commitment

I am going to start complimenting complete strangers.  I am.  I have made the commitment.  I have been thinking about it for a while now.  I see people and admire something about them, hair, outfit, attitude, or perhaps even the way the interact with their children, and I think, “I should tell them that!” But I generally don’t.  I usually just smile (hoping that small bit of body language will communicate the positive vibes I have for them and somehow bless their day) and then walk away. It is just so far outside my comfort zone to even talk to complete strangers, much less compliment them, which is just one of the things about me that is quirky.
First of all- I love to give compliments!  To the people in my life circle.  My husband, my kids, my grandkids, my extended family, my friends…anyone I actually feel like “I know.” But strangers? No. Not at all…
The funny thing is, I have been the recipient of compliments from complete strangers, and they have never made me uncomfortable. In fact, they generally brighten my day! But for some reason, I feel like if I were to compliment someone I don’t know, they will look at me like I am crazy and feel totally uneasy.
I know this fear is a product of my own insecurity…instead of thinking how a compliment will affect the person I am giving it to, I am completely consumed with the fear of what they will think of me, a complete stranger…Silly? Yes, I know. Selfish? Yes, I am starting to see that.
So, the first person I complimented was the check out lady (girl really, because she was terribly young, probably not old enough to buy the box of wine which she was selling me) at Wal Mart.  She was a very lovely girl, who had taken a “do rag” (that is what I call them) type of scarf and wrapped it around her head and had it tied in a really cool bow… When I saw it, my first thought was, “Wow! That is so cute and looks like something I would have worn when I was young.”  And then my next thought was, “Well, I would have wanted to wear that, but I would not have because I would have felt like someone would have thought I looked stupid…” (Which if you really know me at all seems like an oxymoron because I do, say and wear things everyday that should make me look and feel stupid… my friend, Melody, would say that an actual “do rag” would be one of them… but for some reason, I am somewhat confident with those choices- go figure) So, in response to all of these voices in my head, I quickly said, “I love your scarf on your head!!” 
Now, I have to say that I am so glad that I did not follow that with something stupid, like, “That is something I would have wanted to to do, but never would have had the courage to pull off…” or “I never would have thought about tying it in a bow on the top of my head, but it really looks good on you…” or,  my all time favorite and most used addition to anything, “Sorry… just sayin’..”
Now, I have to say that forcing myself to keep quiet during the silence following my compliment allowed me to devote all of my attention on the check out girl’s reaction… (this is, surprisingly what happens when you turn your focus off of  your own feelings and simply observe those around you, who knew?) She smiled shyly, and blushed a little and said, “Thank you!” as she reached up and tenderly touched her scarf… SCORE!!!  For me and for check out girl!!!  I had spoken the affirmative words that had entered my heart, without apology and without explanation.  I had spoken them with confidence in my opinion and my assessment.  The check out girl had received them as an affirmation that someone appreciated her sense of style enough to say something out loud, to her… a positive input for her day.

There is a saying I heard somewhere about that it takes five positive comments to equal/neutralize one negative comment… I am not sure how true that is… but it seems pretty accurate to me!  I have decided I want to be on team POSITIVE FIVE!!! If I like it, am touched by it, admire it, inspired by it or simply think it is cute, I am committing to saying it out loud to the person wearing it, doing it or participating in it.  Welcome to my new “Positive Lifestyle.”